Today I read something that broke my heart.
It was about a young woman who made the devastating decision to end her life through assisted suicide. Her name was Katarina Pavelek, and while I couldn’t place her straight away, I’m sure I’ve seen her on screen before—she was an actress in The Mindy Project and appeared in other shows like Togetherness and The Last Sharknado: It’s About Time.
From this moment on, I don’t think I’ll ever forget her name.
Because Katarina, like me, was living with Myalgic Encephalomyelitis. And like so many of us, she was suffering in ways that are hard to put into words.
You can read more about her story here:
Who was Katarina Pavelek – Slovakian Actress Dies in Assisted Suicide
A Life Remembered
What struck me most wasn’t just the article—it was the tribute from her friends. Fourteen of them gathered on a beach, brought drinks, flowers, and a poster to write farewell messages. They shared memories, laughter, tears… and love. So much love.
Katarina may not have had starring roles on screen, but in the lives of those who knew her, she was a light. A presence. A friend. That’s what matters most.
This Isn’t About Judgement
I’m not here to debate her decision.
Because I know all too well the pain that comes with this illness—not just physically, but emotionally, mentally, spiritually. Only Katarina knew the full weight of what she was carrying. And whatever that looked like, I want to honour her—not question her.
If You’re Struggling, Please Don’t Carry It Alone
If you are in a dark place right now, I want you to know: you’re not alone.
I’ve been there. So low I couldn’t see the point in anything. ME can take everything—your energy, your independence, your identity. But I promise you, even when it doesn’t feel like it, there is still hope. There is still love. There are people who care—even if it’s a stranger at a bus stop or someone reading this blog.
Please, talk to someone. Anyone. It doesn’t have to be perfect or pretty. Just don’t hold it in.
I’m always here if you need to talk. I’m not a professional, but I will always listen.
📧 ask@alishawhittam.com
If you’re in the UK and need immediate help, please visit:
NHS Help for Suicidal Thoughts
To Katarina—
Thank you for the light you shared while you were here.
You will be remembered.
With love,
Alisha 🫶
